So often in life, we are looking forward to a new adventure, but we are also worried about it. Since we have never done it before, we wonder, “What will actually happen?” In our concerns about the unknown, we often become anxious. And unfortunately, most people are drawn to the “what can go wrong” perspective in order to prepare for the upcoming event, which can make matters tenser. And while this is all occurring in our mind, we can become more sensitive to what others say and often want to avoid talking about it.
You might be wondering how this relates to going off to college. When the acceptance letter arrived, it was cause for celebration. Many a dinner conversation centered about how wonderful college will be. And now it is time to shop for the essential dorm room items. But it is just natural that as the departure day arrives, that everyone is having a little “separation anxiety” as we did on the day nursery school or kindergarten began. As a parent, you are hoping that everything will be “perfect” especially because this adventure, called college, is very expensive. Simultaneously, the student is preparing emotionally for this huge transition: an unfamiliar living situation without parental guidance and with a roommate (in most cases), new friends to be made, and new academic challenges. This combination can cause glitches (sometimes problematic ones) in the way parents and children relate before “dropping” your young adult off at his new home.
But here at EA, we want to let you know that it will all work out. Knowing that your concerns are part of this college process, can help. Have patience for each other during this transition time. And remember you can always give us a call ( 845-582.0017), and we will support and encourage everyone.
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